A CANDLE OF HOPE

A word of kindness, goes a long way, in the life of a person, fighting a battle. But rude and harsh words robs all the positive strength accumulated by sheer will power. The stress that goes on, paves way for the disease to over take  and bite into the place again.  The support and inspiration helps the person , fight the challenge out. But the pain can be understood only by someone who wants to understand. Be a small ray of hope in others lives. Try not to slice them with words. 
" A candle loses nothing, if it is used to light another candle."    Our life is like a burning candle, we never know when it will extinguish. Keep helping others to find that light of hope and make life meaningful.

It needs a lot of effort to go on the journey where the result is unknown.  When we give of bit of inspiration nothing is lost. our life never gets shortened. The light given together is greater than the light of one. When a person is fighting a battle, though there is strength and courage, sometimes for a split second, the inner light which was burning brightly starts diminishing. The battle can be won only with the inspiration and support from others. Even that split second of negativity, plays havoc. 

   The day, the realization comes, that we alone can bring back the positive life, then the need for external positive force ends. Just with the belief that God does what is best for us, then we start looking out only for those little blessings that comes our way. If God is being liberal, that means He knows what is in store for us and He wants us to count only on those blessings to help us go forward in life with our battles.

      "So keep lighting candles for others. Give a ray of hope to someone who needs it. Look out for the endless supply of light in the soul and never let the goodness run out of your hearts. Be a glowing candle to light others life with kind  and inspiring words".


 As the Chinese saying goes, "The person who loves others, will also be loved in return. God might be trying to work in another person's life through you".

EVERY EXPERIENCE IS NEW

Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.
Joshua J. Marine

I have always tried to take the challenges that come my way, a new experience. Last month I was really challenged with pain in both my arms. A visit to my oncologist and the check up that followed told me that I need another PET scan. A new lump in my right armpit. A mammogram taken had also shown a new lump in my left  breast and enlarged lymph nodes. So I was advised by my doctor to repeat a scan of my chest area.

May be it is a knock on the head to remind you to be alert always. An appointment was booked and I landed up at the scan center on an empty stomach. The usual procedure of a IV set and their Uniform and then straight into the scan room for the first scan. What made it different from my previous PET Scan, was that I didn't have to drink seven beer mugs of the medicated water. I was given an IV injection first. Then another radioactive element was injected into my veins. Then it was a long wait of almost 4 hours. Since I had a cozy sofa, I had a good sleep.

 My turn for the scan came, I was made to lie down and was instructed about not moving my hand. My head was strapped, so that I don't move it. Then came the dye injection, a very painful one, which burns all over your body for a few seconds and then makes it cool.  It was a new experience every time and I learned something new. Or may be it was my way of taking it.

The next day went with the result to my oncologist.  His serious face when he saw it, did make me think for a second,  but I was prepared to face anything. Doctor told me he wanted to check me. He had suspected  something in my right side, but the left side seemed to be a question mark. He told me it was not significant. So I told him I am being left with a sword dangling over my head.

He said not to worry about the pain and also that I had to live with it. But he still insisted that a painful lump was not cancerous, whereas my experience told me otherwise. The scan result told that a follow up was necessary. So I was left with a question mark.


Accept challenges, so that You may feel the exhilaration of victory.
George S. Patton. 

THE RAINBOW OF FRIENDSHIP

A Friendship is like a rainbow which is formed when all the colors merge to bring out a spectacular rainbow across the sky. Just like the colors, all friends are important in forming a lovely rainbow. Life is made happy with equal amounts of joy and sorrow. Many friends come into our life, some stay with us only to a certain part of our long journey. They go away due to circumstances, distance and many other factors.

     In a life's journey, we realize the importance of all our friends when we feel that life is being cut short or threatened. A realization comes into our life that all friends have a part in making our days happy. When the pains of life, threatens your day to day life, and we fight hard to keep up our positive attitude and never give up spirit, certain friends come in, to light up our inner spirit and keep it burning. We are always indebted to them. 

When the  rainbow is formed, it is like a bridge between the friends. Both have to walk equal distance to make the relationship strong. The assumptions and doubts that creep in, spoils the formation of a beautiful rainbow  and the bridge that was once a spectacular wonder of our life. An extraordinary understanding helps in keeping up our spirits. New friends come in, but never once are the old friends forgotten. As they say new friends are like diamonds, but the old ones are gold that holds the new one in place.

 Sometimes assumptions, doubts are like cancer to the mind. It spoils the root and a kind of uncertainty creeps in. When we are in pain, this aggravates all the pain and stress sets in, paving way for the disease that has been gnawing at our tissues to flare up and cause a lot of problems that has already been there. We look up to our friends for understanding and support at such times. Sometimes, we feel as though we are being driven away from each other. a crack appears and constant pain widens the crack, making it more painful.

 Sometimes there is a storm, and then everything becomes still. The silence after the storm sometimes is of utmost importance, to let the hurt and pain disappear.  The assumptions, like this storm takes away many from our lives. Those who  care for us, cease to care. They move away from us, making us wonder what happened. They just ignore us for days together. Respond only if we make an attempt. This feeling gnaws at us.

Tomorrow is never promised. We never know what tomorrow brings us. There comes a time when we realize that what ever life brings accept it, do what makes us happy and live our life as we want. No one will bear the pain with us. Go on life's journey with a smile, trying to help those in pain or passing on inspiration to those who need it and keep going with a never give up attitude, with the hope that the balance of our life is lived without any regrets.

There is always any  opportunity , to be with, share & make amends 

To parents,
To siblings
To friends
And many more.
No one is promised tomorrow.
Live a wonderful life without any regrets.

The best part of life is when your family becomes your friends
And
Your friends becomes your family.
Dancia Whitfield