Life with Positive Pain.

"Life is beautiful for only those..... Who know how to celebrate pain visiting their way." Read this under a breathtaking click. That really struck me like lightening. I realized how true it is.

A thought that keeps coming across in my mind, is the acceptance of pain. It seems a general opinion that when you accept pain as a constant in your life, you can stop ‘fighting’ it and learn to manage it, allowing you to focus on other things of life. I struggle with the fact, that this might be something I need to clear in my mind. My instinct is to fight pain. Acceptance of any pain, be it physical or psychological, seems like giving in to it.... It means giving up thoughts of continuing to grow. Just accepting the pain and living on, which is like giving in to the pain.

It is like becoming a victim of that pain. You are accepting pain as a constant in your life, accepting it, but not ‘fighting’ it and learning to just manage it. You are allowing it to focus on other things, which is the general belief. But accepting pain is like giving in to that pain, but fighting it out is what really keeps you alive and positive.

Sometimes it is an unique pain, an experience that life gives you to deal with and fight it out. Sometimes it is psychological, when it is a hurt like an open wound, that gets rubbed with salt to make it more deep. Sometimes you think, as to what made it like that, but then you, suddenly realize that it is you, yourself who brought it to that level. Your mind says that you have brought it on yourself. Yes, it is a bitter truth that you have to accept, that you have to rise above all these pains, by fighting it out and bring peace within yourself. you have only yourself to blame, if someone is capable of inflicting pain on you, because you allowed them to do it.

When you are experiencing intense pain, just on the other side of the suffering is really an intense connection with life, having a body and feeling sensations. It is a proof of life, in itself. You have just, got one life to live, and if you spend the painful and challenging moments wishing that we were somewhere else, we lose part of the journey, don’t we? You really get to know how beautiful life is, when you have over all the challenges and pains that life gives, and we face life again with a smile that challenges the pain, that life gives us. 

It is easy to retaliate on others for the pain you face or feel. But in quiet contemplation, you realize that only you have brought it upon yourself, you have the power to succumb to it or come out of it with a smile......the power lies in you...it is in every one. Just ignore the retaliation, knowing within yourself, that it will be understood one day or the other, that pain is the same for everyone. So if you treat every pain that you go through, be it physical or psychological, as a positive one, something to learn from, some experience that is new, you also find that fighting it out is in you, the inner strength that helps you to come out of it by fighting it out.

I have been blessed with the time, energy, and resources to find people who can gently and lovingly support me on a path to wholeness. And I am grateful for the pain, because it calls me home. It reminds me that I have unfinished business to attend to, it reminds me that I could inspire another soul in pain and it always lets me feel that I am alive to see another beautiful day. Life is always beautiful, whether it is with pain or without pain.

I don't know where life may take me the next second, but I can choose not to allow pain to overcome myself as I walk towards what will be my journey. I feel I have grown and aged more as a person, have more resilience towards pain and painful situations of life. And I am ever grateful that I am able to celebrate the 'Positive side of Life', in spite of all that has happened and is happening in my life.

“Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are.”―Bernice Johnson Reagen.

The give and take of life.

"Life is give and take, we open up our heart and hold onto trust. If we don't give and take in our everyday life; then we have nothing to aspire for, give and take is a gift of life." Life is always a give and take of all that goes on around us. This doesn't mean the materialistic things of life, but the non materialistic aspect of day to day living. It is an irony of life, we always feel that the grass is greener on the other side. This may be because we start comparing or the negative thinking that may have seeped in. Even life's compromises are based on a give and take. But there can never be any give and take on the fundamentals of life because any compromise on it is like surrendering to life, which is a concept of "all takes and no gives."

 When we love unbiased, life bestows us with a goodness in nature. That doesn't mean a weakness of character, it is in real a strength of mind. But that always tends to be taken for granted. The compassion lets us go through life with a 'give and take' attitude, but never one that should be seen as one to play upon. Compassion, should be a priority shown first to the one you are living with because that is what it takes to make it go through life; with a complete understanding and also saving an awful lot of resentment towards life. That deep understanding is very much needed in day to day life. It is not love, if we do not know how to give and take in life.

Our daily life transactions become a big zero if we fail to lay stress upon a plus and a minus. Life actually ends the day we start comparing our life, happiness and satisfaction in real life. Before we compare and complain, it is good to introspect ourselves to analyse if we have given our hundred percent effort towards life.

Life is really very simple, if only we learn to strike the right note and a little "give and take" along. But a word of caution is, let it not be a tendency to become selfish. A real loving relationship of life's 'give and take', is one where there is no selfish motives. A thorough introspection of daily life, can make us find ways to get means of finding fulfillment in life, by seeking ways to find happiness around us.Learn to adjust and compromise not by surrendering to the situation, but by understanding it and finding ways to improve it.There is another side to it too..one getting exploited or used .even that should not be allowed .. one should not permit others to take you for granted either ..the balance should be maintained with the give and take in the right proportion ..it should not be an 'all give' or an 'all take '. Maintain a balanced one, though difficult as things are not equal always, but not impossible. Everyone has strengths and personality traits, that play into the 'give and take' of life.

 Sometimes, we have the time and patience to give a patient hearing to someone, but not even a slight inkling of what living with us, wants to say or may be going through at that point of time. A 'give and take', is never ever equal, but the effort could be our best. Sometimes it needs an 'extra' effort to bring balance into life, and that will be the most rewarding phase of life. In today's fast paced world,life styles and changing values, it is that "extra effort", that is missing. It may be due to the changing outlook towards life or the social networks. But there is a dissolution of relationships, even before giving it that 'extra effort' to maintain a balance.

However, the give and take of life has also become hard to be defined, but it could also be a signal that a problem needs to be discussed and worked through. A gentle change in the 'routine of relationship', could do wonders and leave one wondering at the miraculous ways of spicing it up. Sometimes we tend to give all our attention to those around us, that we fail to see the loneliness of the one who is always with us in life. The ones taking care of our every little need daily. The ones praying and looking forward for us daily. We take for granted and fail to see that one person......that's the irony of life.....Seeing and understanding the pain and loneliness of others, but not the one sitting next to us always in daily life, waiting for a smile or a loving gaze.