The Balance Sheet of Life.

“Life without balance can cost you your relationships. Life without balance can cost you your health. Life without balance can cost you your spirituality. Life without balance can cost you your wealth and your happiness. —Jim Rohn

Have read somewhere that "Birth" is the opening balance and "Death" is the closing balance in the "Balance Sheet" of our life. All that happens from birth to death, is accumulated as our "Credits", " Liabilities", "Profits", "Loss" and "Debits" , of our life. It shows how well you have lived your life, and one can analyse it and come to a conclusion of your life. The question is whether you want your balance sheet of life, to be an open one that can be read by your family and make them proud of you or a mysterious one that could put them to shame.

Your family is the Capital Assets of your life, where your spouse is the main asset, you have irrespective of whatever type he or she is. This is where your life should be an open book. Take some time to really look at your life, your state of mind, and how you are feeling. Be honest with yourself and notice the areas of life that you have been neglecting. If you have a conscience that pricks you may realize that you are sometimes trying to be a thorn in someone's life. Is your life an open book to your spouse or do you live in secrecy. In any family, where your children too are the master key to your life, introspect if your life is something for them to look up to or is there something they might be ashamed of. The very fact that you reap what you sow, is something you need to look upon. Today what you are doing in life, tomorrow happens to your son or daughter, would you be able to take it. If your life, your deeds, your actions and the words that you send others, are they secretive or open? These are all that brings pain and rift in a family. The corrupt thoughts and deeds of a spouse, how much of pain it can bring, doesn't affect you till it hits you below the belt. You realize the complexity of these things, when it affects your own sibling or offspring. Learn to maintain your dignity and decency in the world around you. once it falls, your depreciation starts there.

The Friends you have, are your General Reserves, accumulated along your life's journey. Let them remain friends, whom you look up to with a lot of respect and understanding, but nothing more, nothing less too. A true friendship is one that doesn't go beyond a simple standard friendship. A true friend is one who is attached with affection and esteem, one who knows and understands that their friends too have a family and they too need to give their time to the family members too. A close friend is one who is a friend of the family too. A bond of respect, dignity and one you can be proud to introduce to your family members, not one who is mysterious and secretive. The phrase "more close than" and "more than" just a friend, is one you keep seeing in Facebook, Twitter, Orkut or any other social networks . The actual meaning of that phrase, no one can even comprehend in its real sense. One explanation to that phrase is,what they are to each other because of the depth of their so called love, the manipulation of their relationship which is according to them a cute stuff, and also other stuffs. It also means that they have moved into something beyond friendship. It is a very tricky situation which can ruin everything around them, if both are married and have their own families. An emotional kick that each gets or a need to foster some kind of intimacy. A kind of fantasy, which leads to secrecy. Here the bond of friendship goes for a toss. Does it even occur to this so called friends, that it could ruin the very essence of the bond called Friendship? Friends should be those, who are open in their behavior, so that tomorrow the family members don't lose their faith and trust in the word Friendship. Let your general reserves be one that is open, gives you dividends and not loses in life.

The final analysis of your Balance Sheet, depends on your Capital Assets, which is your family, your general reserves, your Friends and your "net worth" as a person. Your family life depends on the friends you keep, your total character and, behavior and your net worth as a person which includes the dignity and respect you keep up in your family and social circle. Let your balance sheet of life be a balanced one with lots of happiness with family members and friends. Let it be one that your near and dear ones are proud one.

I wrote this after a lot of introspection. I think my balance sheet would be one that my near and dear ones will look up to even when I am gone forever. I haven't done anything that they might be ashamed of. My friends are those who have come home or those that I have met with the knowledge of my family members. I have always drawn a line, where I need to keep up my respect and dignity. I wrote this with a very heavy heart and I want all those who read this to introspect on their own life at least for sometime.

Life's Lifeline.

“Your life is a book; make it a bestseller.”― Shanon Grey

Life is a book with beautiful pages that is blank. No one knows what it holds. But all look forward to fill its pages with hope and faith. Some pages may be bright and colorful. Some may be grey and dull. Some may be smudged with ink. Some may be beautifully written. Everything depends on how you take life. Your attitude towards life will reflect upon your days. If you look at ‘obstacles’ as ‘challenges’ that make life ‘meaningful’, you find happiness in it. If you look at ‘obstacles’ as ‘problems’ that make life ‘miserable’, then you will never find happiness. Learn to convert every challenge, as something that has come to teach you something about life, and make that experience as an advantage to lead a better life.

Life is always beautiful inside out. The life of a butterfly teaches us to take life as something beautiful, a butterfly though its life is short, it enjoys life in the nature surrounding it. We are very quick at pointing out different things that upsets our composure. We  think it is because of others, but never realize that the fault lies in us ourselves. Actually we are at fault for losing our composure.

We complicate life because we expect it to work in routines and patterns.  Some point of time boredom sets in, and then we go about finding a scapegoat for it, fret and fume. It is up to you to make life interesting with the creativity you have in your mind. There is beauty around, you just have to look for it and realize that there is beauty in every moment of life in the things around your own home. You just have to simply looking and seeing the life you are living a bit differently and change every challenge of life to your advantage. That rests in the way you perceive things. 

Listen and communicate with the ones living with you, instead of thinking all the time and getting lost in your thoughts. Slow down and spend sometime those that live with you. Compassion is a better vehicle for change than judgment. Make peace with yourself. Find beauty in little things around you.  Beauty is often found through looking into a newborn’s eyes, in the blooming of a flower, or just playing with your kids.. It’s often where you least expect it.

Sometimes we get bogged down in schedules and obligations, and we lose our sense of wonder about the simple joys of life. You can find that the best way to reconnect with how beautiful life can be, by living your life for the joy of others at home, or by giving a helping hand to someone who is really groping through a trauma of life's battle. To see a smile on the face of a child, who is at the crossroads, with a bewildered mind. 

It is easy to get motivated by just looking around you. Be the person you want to remembered years from now. Each of us has a fire in our heart burning for something.  It’s our responsibility in life to find it and keep it lit, not by putting off a fire in another person's heart or life, but by looking for it in your own life. At the end of the day, it is your own reflection you have to see, let it be one that takes pride in having fought life's battle bravely and not one which is dependent on the someone's sympathy. Let it be the reflection of a person who can make a difference in the life of another in a positive way and not one who puts out the life of another. 

"Laugh as much as you breathe. Love without being a thorn in another's life.  Say what you need to say.   Appreciate all the little blessings that come your way.   Smile.  Celebrate your small victories.  Learn from your mistakes.  Realize that everything is a lesson in disguise. "