WHAT CANCER TAUGHT ME…

In my walk of life, though I gave a lot of importance to relationships, be it family or friends, many a time I felt I was taken for granted….then the harsh experience of comparison, neglect, hurt, a feeling of being used set in..I had lot of patience & gave a long rope to everyone in my life. I always used to put myself in the other person’s shoes. In my younger days I was too frank. When I got married I realized it doesn’t help being frank & I learned the art of diplomacy . Whenever my relationships went through rough weather, instead of “letting go “ of my ego, I “let go” of my relationships.

It is when the harsh reality of CANCER hit me, I realized the truth that “ Life is short . Why waste it in unnecessary squabbles? It is better to enjoy every moment of life without any regrets” Cancer taught me to accept each & every person as he/she is, to accept a person with good & bad, as no one is perfect. Who am I to judge a person, when I am myself not perfect. I have always been happy with what I have in life, in both good & bad times. Then why can’t I be happy with a person, taking him/her as he/she is.

People say that there is a snake within every human being. We rarely realize that a snake emits venom or bites, only when it is provoked & helpless. So also, a human being, who has a lot of patience, when compared & provoked , the snake in them raises its ugly hood. When we are ready to forgive & forget, it recoils itself. But we realize it very late when the gap has widened a lot. Cancer taught me that it doesn’t help in any way to keep a grudge or feeling of hatred. In fact it gives peace of mind when you let go & in the end you are at peace with your inner self.

I also happened to read an article about Cancer By John Hopkins. According to his study on Cancer he says” Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit.A proactive and positive spirit will help the cancer warrior be a survivor. Anger, un-forgiveness and bitterness put the body into a stressful and acidic environment. Learn to have a loving and forgiving spirit. Learn to relax and enjoy life”. I try my best to think only of the positive side of life & people.

I have found peace within myself. Cancer taught me so many things which even the bitter experiences of my life had not. I learned that I can be beautiful even being bald. I learned that I can be beautiful in spite of my being less feminine in appearance. Beauty is not external; beauty is a glowing light in the heart & a smile which radiates & glows on your face. I have been a born fighter & my motto is” Never ever give up in life”.


Nothing in life should be taken for granted
By a Cancer Survivor.(Author unknown)

I know there is nothing in life you should take for granted.
I know which battles I can fight and which ones I don’t need to.
I know the difference between important and irrelevant.
I know every second I waste, is a second I’ll never get back.
I know I can have scars and still be beautiful.
I know my life is just as valuable after cancer as it was before, even if life insurance companies feel differently.
I know the difference between romance and real love.
I know that an hour in traffic is much shorter than an hour waiting for results.
I know that there is something I can learn from everything I am faced with.
I know true strength has nothing to do with how strong you are.
I know that people are all good and kind, even if sometimes we don’t all act that way.
I know I’m here for a good time, a long time, so I better make the best of it.
I know one day, I won’t be here, but I’m lucky to be here now