My life with challenges.

We are not given a good life or a bad life. We are given life. And it's up to you to make it good or bad.”  “My reaction to their opinions helped me see that I was maturing, and beginning truly to accept and like who I was. Others could no longer break the confidence I had in myself. I could love myself when somebody loved me, and I could love myself when others were angry or even hated me. I was no longer reacting with anger or frustration, but only sadness at other’s ignorance and their inability to understand and accept that we all are different. In other words, I was beginning to see the advantages of my struggles in life.”  “My mother always told me that my condition didn't affect my smiley muscles, don’t let them affect yours.”Ward Foley, “THANK MY LUCKY SCARS.”

I read these small excerpts in Positive blog. That made me, a rebel think and reason out with myself. How true it was. My life had always been one with lot of obstacles and challenges. And yes, my scars, both psychological and physical, did make me think that nothing can affect me without me allowing it to victimize me. All these taught me a great lesson in life, to only count on my little blessings that God sent my way.

 I know that it’s up to me to be positive regardless of what’s happening around me. I don’t point fingers and place blame on anyone for what is happening in my life. . I realize that everything happens how it happens; it’s up to me to choose how I want to feel about it and that I am in control of my attitude, and no one can take that away from me. Whatever happens is for a reason to become what I should be in future. To live a positive, joyful life, should not get affected by negative things that increases my stress level and that which can affect my health.

I learnt that the best thing to focus is on the positive things I was doing—such as working on my blog and cultivating a new positive role of encouraging those who were going through a trauma and let go of the negative ones. Though it was not easy and, to be honest, is still ongoing, but I learnt that: It’s hard to bring out the change in those that we are working on. I also realized that I could do a lot in helping children out of their confused state of mind. And a teacher’s experience was enough to do that. Spending time with little kids was the most rewarding experience of my life. And with this conclusion I am at peace with my life, thinking I could use my teachers experience and the trauma I myself went through as a cancer patient was enough to help the little ones and also the those going through the trauma of any illness.

I have often heard the words “be yourself.” I just love these words, and I do really believe that everyone should strive to be the truest version of who they are. I have learnt the hard way that there is nothing more attractive than a person who is just so utterly themselves. Being strong willed I know what I want, What I am, and also realize that nobody else can determine my definitions of myself.. I stand up for what I believe, even when others call me over positive and a perfectionist, because no one has seen my life for what it has been or what it is. . And most importantly, I stand up for others where it matters.

This includes being wrong sometimes and even admitting it. Even opening my mind to the possibility of all possibilities; seeing the positive in the negative, understanding the behavior of those who may seem  to morally attack me and learning from the other side of a passionate debate or knowing when to reject it. I am strong enough to know that I should not a victim of life’s circumstances. After having faced so many obstacles and challenges in life, I have learnt to be a warrior and not a victim. When I shift my mind to the state of being positive against all odds in my life, I realize that other people do not control me, it is I who control myself and that nobody is in charge of my now or how I feel.  A warrior is one who makes her life what it is and I would like to create it myself. I have been a born fighter and that is what I would like to remain at all costs. It is always in adverse situations that I have great potential in myself to come out of all that tries to threaten my very foundation of being positive and stand up staring at all challenges on the face. I have always smiled at the face of adversity. Every time, something tries to rob me of my positivity, I make a comeback with renewed strength to face all the battles of life with a smile. Come what may, I know that those who doubt me never knew me and those that know me will never doubt me.

It is not that I never feel down or depressed. I have feelings like any other human being. I too feel hurt. There are times when I have felt small and the world crashing around me. It is like a crashing wave of emotions that come at you like a tsunami. While it’s happening, I feel completely blindsided by it. But I try shifting my mind set into one that is proactive and ready to take charge of my life by the irreplaceable spark of positivity.  I try to channelize my thoughts to come out of the negativity that seeps in, with a determination of not giving in to any negative thoughts that could harm my thoughts and victimize me. It is very difficult at times to fight out the low feeling that seeps in, when your mind and body is at loggerheads with each other. I energize myself with music, reading or writing, to channelize my thoughts in a positive way.

It’s one of life’s great ironies that it feels so natural to feel low and keep us stuck. It requires sheer grit and perseverance to stay positive against all odds of life. The challenges and obstacles I have faced, made me strong and a fighter of life. The scars of my mind and body, doesn't deter me from being positive. In fact it gives me the strength and determination to let go of what I cannot change and face all those daily challenges of life with a renewed grit.

“Sometimes you need to take a few moments to wipe away the world's grime from your eyes and refill your soul with joy. Your attitude in the morning reflects your personality. You can either wake up grumpily, with a smile.  You can either choose to whine, or hum a tune. Wake up to a good start, and you will see that every day presents a host of joys and miracles. Consider yourself lucky to be awake and alive; to live, breathe, and enjoy the gift of life. Even if you had a long and weary yesterday, always greet today with a smile. Spread the enthusiasm and cheer with a lot of positive vibes because it is contagious.”